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lundi 29 septembre 2014

Parenting Principles That You Should Know And Practice Everyday

By Marlyn Parker


Being a parent can be a very confusing job, especially if you are not sure of what parenting strategies will work best to raise your kids. For instance, should you be more authoritarian or should you be more relaxed? The following will help you decide which strategy you would like to use as you parent your children. Many experts will tell you that the most effective style of parenting is authoritative parenting, which is different from authoritarian. Whereas the authoritarian parent expects children to obey unquestioningly, the authoritative parent sets clear rules, but at the same time allows children to ask questions and have some say in important matters. The authoritative parent seeks to be neither overly lenient or overly harsh. Parents who are authoritarian may end up with kids who have trouble making their own decisions, while very permissive parents often turn out kids who lack the necessary structure it takes to make them feel secure. There's nothing wrong with giving your kids freedom, but it has to be tempered with a recognition that they're still kids and need some limits.

Each child has the possibility and probability of reaching great heights in life, but this is stymied when parents ignore their kids or neglect them altogether. Getting to wrapped up in your own life, and ignoring the lives of your children, can be detrimental to them so you need to find a way to make their life interact with yours. A parent that shows up and does stuff with their kids, even if they don't know what they are doing, is someone that cares and wants their children to succeed.

Each child has the possibility and probability of reaching great heights in life, but this is stymied when parents ignore their kids or neglect them altogether. It is important to also realize that life can become very busy, so you need to find time and schedule it in for your kids or you will miss them as they grow up. A parent that shows up and does stuff with their kids, even if they don't know what they are doing, is someone that cares and wants their children to succeed.

There are definitely ways that you could change your child's behavior and get them to mind you a little better. One of the most effective ways to handle this is to give the child some choices. Any choice that you give your child will give them the power to make the right decision, something you want them to learn. Let's say you just planted your garden and your child is out there with the giant shovel.

Every parent needs advice, support or another adult to talk to sometimes. Try to work things out with your partner so that responsibilities are shared as much as possible. There's always someone who can help if you look for it -if not your partner, then perhaps a friend or family member; if not these, there are many support groups for parents in various situations. The best parents are those who recognize when they need help and learn how to ask for it. The best time to set up a support network is before you desperately need it. Needing help or advice doesn't mean you're not competent as a parent, only that you're human. Sometimes someone else can offer a fresh point of view and give you a useful suggestion. While there's no simple rule to govern all situations you face as a parent, it's good to have some guiding principles. So respond to every situation as it arises and try to learn from your experiences. It can be useful to study various theories about parenting, but finally you have to make up your own mind about what's best.




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