I:0:T During all of the forty-some years I have been parenting, the most consistent temper tantrum advice from experts has been for parents to ignore their child's tantrums. The theory behind such a technique of ignoring temper tantrums, according to my understanding, is that ignoring them prevents their validation. The parent who ignores tantrums avoids rewarding their child for them and avoids reinforcing their negative behavior with any attention.
According to this theory of don't-reinforce-negative-behavior, in such a situation the basic assumption is that children throw the tantrum in order to get undeserved attention (this is negative behavior), and if parents avoid reinforcing such negative behaviors, they should stop, go away, and cease to occur. Despite this basic theory behind the ignoring-tantrums techniques, throughout the modern history of parenting advising, most experts who've recommended using them have not claimed that they will stop tantrums in progress or prevent them.
Only a few decades ago, expert parenting advisors still weren't including the word prevention in the same sentence as the word tantrum. Their advice was meant only to help parents know how to best manage and deal with the tantrums, the same as it mostly is today. However, modern parenting advisors now instruct parents on how to prevent some of the tantrums by managing children's temper tantrum triggers, such as frustration, hunger, and tiredness. In other words, these advisors teach parents to prevent the tiredness, hunger, and frustration in their children. They don't teach parents to prevent temper tantrums in the face of normal childhood living, which occasionally includes frustration, hunger, and tiredness.
My particular method of temper tantrum prevention and elimination is greatly different from other people's methods. I help parents learn how to respond to their babies and children in a way that totally makes it unnecessary to be watchful for temper tantrum triggers (which are actually anger triggers). The typical childhood and infant frustrations stop triggering temper tantrums. In spite of this basic theory behind the ignoring-tantrums technique, throughout modern history of parenting advice, most experts who've recommended using the technique haven't claimed that it will prevent tantrums or stop them in progress.
I teach parents to totally, 100% eliminate temper tantrums from their children's behavioral repertoire so there are no longer any tantrums in progress to have to stop, handle, manage, or deal with. I also teach parents to consistently respond to their newborn infants in ways that the babies never develop a tantrum-throwing pattern or even of escalating when angry. I teach parents these abilities with clarity and with many examples in hopes that they will learn them quickly and easily.
According to this theory of don't-reinforce-negative-behavior, in such a situation the basic assumption is that children throw the tantrum in order to get undeserved attention (this is negative behavior), and if parents avoid reinforcing such negative behaviors, they should stop, go away, and cease to occur. Despite this basic theory behind the ignoring-tantrums techniques, throughout the modern history of parenting advising, most experts who've recommended using them have not claimed that they will stop tantrums in progress or prevent them.
Only a few decades ago, expert parenting advisors still weren't including the word prevention in the same sentence as the word tantrum. Their advice was meant only to help parents know how to best manage and deal with the tantrums, the same as it mostly is today. However, modern parenting advisors now instruct parents on how to prevent some of the tantrums by managing children's temper tantrum triggers, such as frustration, hunger, and tiredness. In other words, these advisors teach parents to prevent the tiredness, hunger, and frustration in their children. They don't teach parents to prevent temper tantrums in the face of normal childhood living, which occasionally includes frustration, hunger, and tiredness.
My particular method of temper tantrum prevention and elimination is greatly different from other people's methods. I help parents learn how to respond to their babies and children in a way that totally makes it unnecessary to be watchful for temper tantrum triggers (which are actually anger triggers). The typical childhood and infant frustrations stop triggering temper tantrums. In spite of this basic theory behind the ignoring-tantrums technique, throughout modern history of parenting advice, most experts who've recommended using the technique haven't claimed that it will prevent tantrums or stop them in progress.
I teach parents to totally, 100% eliminate temper tantrums from their children's behavioral repertoire so there are no longer any tantrums in progress to have to stop, handle, manage, or deal with. I also teach parents to consistently respond to their newborn infants in ways that the babies never develop a tantrum-throwing pattern or even of escalating when angry. I teach parents these abilities with clarity and with many examples in hopes that they will learn them quickly and easily.
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