I:0:T How, you ask, can I be so sure it's possible to raise kids free of temper tantrums when parenting experts tell us it's not possible? My first five babies all threw temper tantrums...and my last eight did not. My fifth baby was around fourteen months old when I figured out what to change in my parenting style so that he became forever free of temper tantrums within about a week.
With my last eight children I applied these same parenting techniques from their births on, and none of them ever threw tantrums. I'm not claiming, however, to be one of a select few parents to have raised a number of tantrum-free kids. Personally, I've met hundreds of them, and I'm guessing there have been millions and millions of them over all time.
If parenting experts should be believed when they tell us that virtually all children throw temper tantrums, then how could we account for the many parents who claim their children have never thrown them? Do we conclude that these parents are lying? Or do we conclude that the theory of tantrum inevitability is incorrect? It's easy for me to conclude the latter because I'm one of those parents who've raised some tantrum-free kids, and I know I'm not lying about it.
Parents of tantrum-free children probably don't usually know exactly what it is they've done differently from what parents of tantrum-throwers have. My guess is this is because they haven't had the kinds of failures I've had to compare with their successes. I'm guessing, in other words, that most parents who raise tantrum-free kids are successful at doing it with all of their kids from the very beginning of their parenting. Somehow they're able to get on the right track at the start of their parenting and don't get into following the standard, but faulty, tantrum advice. They don't have the before and after examples like I did so they can tell us what they were doing when they were failing and what they changed in order to succeed.
But even though these parents can't say exactly how they raised tantrum-free kids, they still support my theory. They still show that tantrum-free child rearing is quite possible for parents who somehow manage to come up with the right techniques. Anyone who has raised children free of tantrums is welcome to list those experiences on my Tantrum Free Club webpage so as to help me convince others of the possibilities. And anyone who hasn't raised tantrum-free kids is invited to vent a little and share the worst ever or most embarrassing temper tantrums of their children on my Most Embarrassing Tantrums webpage.
With my last eight children I applied these same parenting techniques from their births on, and none of them ever threw tantrums. I'm not claiming, however, to be one of a select few parents to have raised a number of tantrum-free kids. Personally, I've met hundreds of them, and I'm guessing there have been millions and millions of them over all time.
If parenting experts should be believed when they tell us that virtually all children throw temper tantrums, then how could we account for the many parents who claim their children have never thrown them? Do we conclude that these parents are lying? Or do we conclude that the theory of tantrum inevitability is incorrect? It's easy for me to conclude the latter because I'm one of those parents who've raised some tantrum-free kids, and I know I'm not lying about it.
Parents of tantrum-free children probably don't usually know exactly what it is they've done differently from what parents of tantrum-throwers have. My guess is this is because they haven't had the kinds of failures I've had to compare with their successes. I'm guessing, in other words, that most parents who raise tantrum-free kids are successful at doing it with all of their kids from the very beginning of their parenting. Somehow they're able to get on the right track at the start of their parenting and don't get into following the standard, but faulty, tantrum advice. They don't have the before and after examples like I did so they can tell us what they were doing when they were failing and what they changed in order to succeed.
But even though these parents can't say exactly how they raised tantrum-free kids, they still support my theory. They still show that tantrum-free child rearing is quite possible for parents who somehow manage to come up with the right techniques. Anyone who has raised children free of tantrums is welcome to list those experiences on my Tantrum Free Club webpage so as to help me convince others of the possibilities. And anyone who hasn't raised tantrum-free kids is invited to vent a little and share the worst ever or most embarrassing temper tantrums of their children on my Most Embarrassing Tantrums webpage.
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