I:1:T Every one of my first five babies threw temper tantrums. When my fifth child was fourteen months of age, I learned what to improve in my parenting style so I could prevent any further tantrums from him. Within a week or so after this, he was entirely and forever free of tantrums. I then used my newfound skills with the rest of my children, all eight of them, from birth on. Not one of them ever threw a tantrum, not even the two with ADHD, one of whom also had severe Oppositional Defiant Disorder. As a young adult, this daughter recently stated, "I was an extremely, totally defiant child, but, through all the many years my mother and I struggled over which one of us was going to be in charge, I always loved the way she responded to my anger."
When I help other parents use my concepts to totally eliminate and totally prevent temper tantrums in their own children, I begin by teaching them the difference between Type-One and Type-Two tantrums. It's quite important to know what kind of tantrums one is trying to eliminate, because Type-Two temper tantrums need additional parenting techniques besides those needed in general for Type-One and Type-Two.
A Type-One temper tantrum is really just a true expression of anger that has escalated to a point of rage, perhaps to the extreme, and possibly to the maximum. This is out-of-control anger (or almost so). This kind of tantrum happens when something comes along to naturally make the child angry.
A Type-Two temper tantrum is not only an expression of anger (which might be fake, genuine, exaggerated, or unexaggerated) but it's also a conscious and deliberate attempt to manipulate or intimidate the caregiver. This type of temper tantrum occurs when a child isn't given what she or he wants.
Advice from temper tantrum "experts" has historically included a certain amount of "ignore the child's tantrums." This was the faulty advice given to me that I steadfastly followed when I initially parented my first five children. I ultimately learned, after I was able to eliminate the tantrums of my fifth baby, that the practice of ignoring tantrums was part of what was causing them. In fact, my belief is that ignoring temper tantrums almost guarantees their recurrence. Of course, there are many other factors in total elimination and total prevention of temper tantrums from the behavioral repertoires of children. These other factors are elaborated on in my presentation of my methods, which I have named, "Infant Anger Management." But it begins with the parents ending their own ignoring-the-tantrums behaviors.
When I help other parents use my concepts to totally eliminate and totally prevent temper tantrums in their own children, I begin by teaching them the difference between Type-One and Type-Two tantrums. It's quite important to know what kind of tantrums one is trying to eliminate, because Type-Two temper tantrums need additional parenting techniques besides those needed in general for Type-One and Type-Two.
A Type-One temper tantrum is really just a true expression of anger that has escalated to a point of rage, perhaps to the extreme, and possibly to the maximum. This is out-of-control anger (or almost so). This kind of tantrum happens when something comes along to naturally make the child angry.
A Type-Two temper tantrum is not only an expression of anger (which might be fake, genuine, exaggerated, or unexaggerated) but it's also a conscious and deliberate attempt to manipulate or intimidate the caregiver. This type of temper tantrum occurs when a child isn't given what she or he wants.
Advice from temper tantrum "experts" has historically included a certain amount of "ignore the child's tantrums." This was the faulty advice given to me that I steadfastly followed when I initially parented my first five children. I ultimately learned, after I was able to eliminate the tantrums of my fifth baby, that the practice of ignoring tantrums was part of what was causing them. In fact, my belief is that ignoring temper tantrums almost guarantees their recurrence. Of course, there are many other factors in total elimination and total prevention of temper tantrums from the behavioral repertoires of children. These other factors are elaborated on in my presentation of my methods, which I have named, "Infant Anger Management." But it begins with the parents ending their own ignoring-the-tantrums behaviors.
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